My three years' experience -- avoiding endless internal friction

Idealism, TT 2021-10-14 01:03:37
years experience avoiding endless internal

I thought for a long time. , Finally know what you want to write , I want to write an article that can summarize my experience and help the people I see . technology 、 A person 、 Study …… I'm far from the big guys in these aspects , think it over and over again , I have a lot of experience in avoiding internal friction , This is my deepest worry .

at work 1 Years later , I often fall into the trap of not wanting to work or study , Look at the screen at work , I don't want to write code . I know it's wrong , But I couldn't cheer up at that moment . I didn't do anything during the day , Before going to bed at night, I fell into deep remorse , anxious , Lead to poor rest , A vicious cycle , I've been listless for a long time .

How to motivate yourself ?

Change what I can change , Accept what I can't change . In my submission , Doing what you can change is a good way to relieve anxiety .

To get a good mental state, you need to meet many conditions , Like work :

The material reward is satisfied with yourself 、 A view of what you are doing 、 People who work together are their favorite 、 Leaders understand the difficulties in their work 、 I haven't had any emotional difficulties recently …… There are too many things that can affect your mental state , It's normal to fall into a bad state often .

But this should be the difference between professional and unprofessional , I observed the people around me , The good people around me seem to have the same characteristics , They don't seem to be trapped by emotions , Whatever happens , It will not affect the working state . Why don't they always fall into internal friction like me ?

I found a lot of information on the Internet , I also read a lot of psychological books , Did some practice ; About alleviating anxiety , Avoid internal friction . I have found some useful methods after I use them :

Get enough sleep , This is the most important point , Typing Code on the computer during the day , There may be a need to change all the time , Always let you “ Think of a way ” Leadership of , And all kinds of accidents . But as long as you sleep well , It can greatly alleviate negative emotions .

Keep exercising every week , Running really relieves anxiety , I won't post the scientific basis ~ And it can also cultivate a sports hobby for yourself , You can make more appointments with friends , I chose Badminton .

Go out with your former friends on the weekend .


And that is , Change your view of things . I used to look at things very one-sided , such as : Everyone does the same work , Why do leaders have higher standards for me ? I used to think it was embarrassing me , Double label ? After a change of opinion , I think , I value you differently , This level of double labeling can also improve your ability , Someone urged me to improve , It's a good thing .

Let yourself go on business , Pessimists can think that , I'm leaving home , It's annoying to go out ; But you can also think optimistically , young , Isn't it a good thing to go out and see the world at public expense , Always stay in one place, two points and one line , You will regret when you are old .

I have a project in my hand and failed , It can be said that , His not , Just can't do anything well , Others must do better than themselves ; You can also change your mind , I made it like this , If someone else did it, it would be even worse , I've done the best I can . Even overconfidence , Better than not confident .

Some people miss it , You'll be sorry , But you can also think of , The next one is better and better ~( No )

That's about it , A little Q The spirit of , It is also a kind of “ Subject to separate ”, Do what you can influence as well as possible , Keep summarizing yourself , Optimize yourself . If you can't do it well, don't blame yourself too much , I can't help but believe in myself after falling countless times .

Take the initiative to solve the root cause of your troubles , For example, my most anxious thing recently is to write this article . from 8 I've been thinking about it since January , Keep dragging , Find an excuse to say that you are busy , Think about the Mid Autumn Festival and write , The Mid Autumn Festival says national day and then write . This is also an internal friction , I need to separate my energy from everything I do .

There were a lot of things before , There are a lot of duplicate code in the project , Think about reconstructing one every day , There are new jobs to be busy every day ; Just do it when you think about it , Fill up the hole in front before you can concentrate on the next thing .

Have acne , It's annoying to look in the mirror every morning , After half a year, I still have to go to the dermatitis office to prescribe medicine .


All questions , Should take the initiative to solve , In order to better face new challenges .

About learning

As far as I'm concerned , I don't like learning ? I like reading , If a novel is a Book .

Methodology is not mentioned , I've read a lot of books in this field , I think we should cultivate curiosity first , Cultivate interest in code to be more motivated to learn . Learn about the history of technology first , It will be more exciting to learn the corresponding technology .

The knowledge in books doesn't seem to be used much in work , Work is more about physical strength , attitude , Will ; But unconsciously , The leader will say I There are technical capabilities , But EQ ……”,“ You can't write beautiful code ……” Every time I listen to such words, I feel very embarrassed , Because I don't think the technology is very good . I don't know if it's to slap a sweet jujube again , Or is it really useful ? I should still not reach the realm , You still need other people's evaluation to judge yourself . But at least you can feel at ease when you study , Relieving anxiety .

About getting along with colleagues

People's troubles come from interpersonal relationships , I haven't done very well in this regard , Not a very happy person who can talk to everyone .

But I think it's not annoying .

Hope to be liked by everyone , First, like others ; Discover the strengths of others , And study hard . Everyone needs to be seen , Needed .

Personal external image should also pay attention to , If you are not satisfied with your hairstyle, try changing some barbershops ; Clothes match in B Station learning up…… After all, everyone is a Beauty Association .

This is my three-year experience , Make peace with yourself to see tomorrow .


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